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kitten2021
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kitten2021
Closeok... I never post my personal goings on online, but I figured with this, i should at least get some advise and see what direction I should take...
I have this person of the oposit gender at work that admires me and is looking for a good relationship with me. I admire this person and all but the fact that we work together in a major company where the owner actually is IN the same building as us makes me feel really nervous about getting involved with this person. There are these rules that if you are caught working in the same place as someone you are involved with then one of you or both of you CAN be fired.
I like the person, the person likes me; the other person has been through a LOT of other relationships in the past and has a few little feet that needs to be cared for now due to that.
I don't know if maybe I'll be the next person to provide the newest set of "little feet" for this person or what and really dont want to be. But I a so confused as of to which direction to go... I like this person and the feeling is mutual (so I think anyways).
What do you guys think I should do...? :(
I have this person of the oposit gender at work that admires me and is looking for a good relationship with me. I admire this person and all but the fact that we work together in a major company where the owner actually is IN the same building as us makes me feel really nervous about getting involved with this person. There are these rules that if you are caught working in the same place as someone you are involved with then one of you or both of you CAN be fired.
I like the person, the person likes me; the other person has been through a LOT of other relationships in the past and has a few little feet that needs to be cared for now due to that.
I don't know if maybe I'll be the next person to provide the newest set of "little feet" for this person or what and really dont want to be. But I a so confused as of to which direction to go... I like this person and the feeling is mutual (so I think anyways).
What do you guys think I should do...? :(
post=92518
What? What kind of a career is this that you would get fired? Out of curiosity ...
A lot of places have rules against romantic fraternizing in the work place; one reason being that if things go downhill, things might go sour between the two, and that furthermore might impede things in the office and for business. Things can get awkward when you have to deal with working with someone when you were banging and things went south.
"Isn't that generally happens when one 'bangs?'"
Instantly the best reply this topic is going to get.
On topic: I think it depends on how important the job is to you. If the job is important to you (it would be hard to get something similar, you like your job, you like the people there, the pay is good or whatever) then I wouldn't bother doing anything that could screw that up. If the job isn't important you (and especially if it would be easy to get something similar) I don't see a problem.
Instantly the best reply this topic is going to get.
On topic: I think it depends on how important the job is to you. If the job is important to you (it would be hard to get something similar, you like your job, you like the people there, the pay is good or whatever) then I wouldn't bother doing anything that could screw that up. If the job isn't important you (and especially if it would be easy to get something similar) I don't see a problem.
Yeaster
3861
No one has to know you two are dating if both of you keep quiet about it (at least until one leaves/gets fired).
Just keep it on the DL. Unless your job has spies following its employees, no one's going to find out.
Just keep it on the DL. Unless your job has spies following its employees, no one's going to find out.
Sam
1356
I dated someone from my workplace once. Big mistake, things went sour quite quickly and it made work really awkward, our work mates started siding with either me or her and it caused a mini rift in the place. Glad she quit a couple of months after that actually.
kitten2021
1462
post=92518
What? What kind of a career is this that you would get fired? Out of curiosity ...
It's a blasted security type place (no the company is not a security company, their just blasted tight with security), they have camera's everywhere except for the bathrooms. They watch the computers with special programs on it that records everything on your computer from the moment you turn it on to the moment you turn it off. Then they listen to all your phone calls and keep copies of every single e-mail you get/send. They watch for you to go out on the internet and then fire you the instant you do... Its nasty. But it pays the bills and is actually very important to me...
So I suppose that is just kind of the way I will have to go... :/ That sucks... Really like the guy, but I have to feed a family of 5 and 10 dogs... Thanks for the advise guys, I thought on it a lot actually. :)
kitten2021
1462
It involves suicide and so forth, prefer not to get too involved with explaining it... Takes too long... -.- I would be banned with how much space I would take up explaining it.
kitten2021
1462
post=92605
10 dogs?
Lol! Yes, 10 dogs. All different types btw. :) Only 3 of them are really mine though... The rest belongs to the family, but we each take turns taking care of them.
kitten2021
1462
XD Nah, I had cats, picked the name back then, but don't have cats anymore. Liked the name; kept the name. :P
brandonabley
1504
post=92534
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On topic: I think it depends on how important the job is to you. If the job is important to you
It's easy to devalue a job like this before you're actually in the middle of your career.
You should absolutely never date anyone at work - unless you are pretty sure that the person is your soulmate. If so, it's worth any gamble. :) Otherwise, you don't want to screw up your career, do you?
I think your company's draconian internet monitoring policies are interesting. Are you exaggerating them? I work for the federal government, and it's not nearly that bad. A valued employee who dicks around on the internet is still a valued employee, and it's not worth firing them over fantasy football. Plus, who has the resources to employ people to monitor others' internet use? It's a pretty frivolous waste of manpower if that's the case.
