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I just found out I can't have kids. I had decided I didn't want to have kids, but now that I know that I can't have them, I feel like something's missing!
calunio- 06/15/2015 04:14 PM
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CloseI won't say that it's okay as a sort of platitude - only you can decide whether or not it actually is okay to you - but it's not the end of a familial dream, if you later decide to have one, nor does it make you any less capable of being a parent or less of a person.
That said, you might want to look into diet and exercise, then get a second test after a year or two. It might be a false positive - there's always the chance - and there are always those stories of miracle children being born to parents who assumed they couldn't have any, so never count something out completely.
If worst comes to worst, you can always use a semen bank - it might not be the exact same as having your own child biologically, but those who donate never intend to contact those born of their donations and there's nothing wrong with choosing that option if you need to - the anonymity of the practice makes that child completely yours in any case.
I am sorry that this happened and that you're upset, though. I hope this makes you feel a little better (it probably won't. >.<; I'm not sure what can be said to make you feel better about something like this, sorry. Just... I hope you feel better soon. )
That said, you might want to look into diet and exercise, then get a second test after a year or two. It might be a false positive - there's always the chance - and there are always those stories of miracle children being born to parents who assumed they couldn't have any, so never count something out completely.
If worst comes to worst, you can always use a semen bank - it might not be the exact same as having your own child biologically, but those who donate never intend to contact those born of their donations and there's nothing wrong with choosing that option if you need to - the anonymity of the practice makes that child completely yours in any case.
I am sorry that this happened and that you're upset, though. I hope this makes you feel a little better (it probably won't. >.<; I'm not sure what can be said to make you feel better about something like this, sorry. Just... I hope you feel better soon. )
I appreciate the concern!
I actually don't think I'll ever want to have wife or kids. So it shouldn't be a problem in my life at any point.
What I really have is this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Varicocele
It is treatable with surgery, so if I ever change my mind, I can try it.
My gams are my babies. :D
I actually don't think I'll ever want to have wife or kids. So it shouldn't be a problem in my life at any point.
What I really have is this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Varicocele
It is treatable with surgery, so if I ever change my mind, I can try it.
My gams are my babies. :D
Hey, welcome to the club buddy.
Seriously though, I understand the feeling. It can be pretty rough. Sorry that you had to wind up in this situation too, however you got here.
Seriously though, I understand the feeling. It can be pretty rough. Sorry that you had to wind up in this situation too, however you got here.
What actually happened is that I had a serious infection earlier this year that affected all of my lower parts. I was twice in the hospital for 15 days total, needed a surgery, and a doctor said I would need another surgery. The recuperation of this final(?) one would be 60 days, and I was pretty worried about that. Today I found out I'm overall fine and it's very unlikely that I'll need another surgery, so that made me pretty happy. That's probably why this varicocele "bad news" didn't affect me much.
What happened to you Pizza?
What happened to you Pizza?
Sooz
They told me I was mad when I said I was going to create a spidertable. Who’s laughing now!!!
5354
Well obviously what's missing is properly functioning vents :V
I can def. see why you'd feel kind of ripped off though- even if you're fairly sure, there's something so irritating about being told "you can't do this." It's like, "Fuck you, nature, you're not the boss of me!"
I can def. see why you'd feel kind of ripped off though- even if you're fairly sure, there's something so irritating about being told "you can't do this." It's like, "Fuck you, nature, you're not the boss of me!"
calunio
What happened to you Pizza?
I must admit, I feel kind of shitty trying to share the boat with someone who has actual medical problems preventing him from fathering children, since mine are just nature/mental/sexual based more than anything else.
The truth is that I'm a Xenophile, and I have been since I was a young child. I've never been attracted to Human women and I honestly find the idea of sharing any sort of relations of that type with them extremely disgusting and at times even nauseating. I have no explanation for why this is the case, since I can recall being this way as early as age 6 or 7 when my first "crush" type feelings began to work their way into my mind.
So simply put, there's nothing on Earth for me to start a family with. It's really that "easy".
Well, if I transferring the ability to reproduce was easy, I wouldn't mind donating mine one bit. I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at the age of 3, and frankly, I'd hate myself if I had anything to do with a child having to suffer through this shit all their lives.
Pizza that's something I have never heard about. I wonder if you still have the desire of having children. Because if so, there are ways other than having sex. There are other things I would ask, but this is probably not the appropriate place.
Zeigfried honestly, that sounds a bit unfair to me, because when you say it is like you don't think you should have been born at all (because of this disease), and I'm pretty sure you don't feel that way. Parents always have everything to do with anything regarding their children, giving genes (both good and bad) to your kids is just part of the bigger picture.
Zeigfried honestly, that sounds a bit unfair to me, because when you say it is like you don't think you should have been born at all (because of this disease), and I'm pretty sure you don't feel that way. Parents always have everything to do with anything regarding their children, giving genes (both good and bad) to your kids is just part of the bigger picture.
Zeigfried the chances of a child developing Type 1 when they have a father who has it is 10%, which gives you a 90% chance of not passing it on. If you actually want to have children that shouldn't be a reason to stop you, and indeed if you and your partner's genes did tumble in such a way as to produce a child who also had the disease who better to be there for them than someone who knows intimately what they are going through?
I can understand why you are gun shy though, and there are plenty of options if you want children in your life that don't involve a genetic contribution from you. Which of course goes for anyone who wants to but finds they cannot father or bear children. There are plenty of kids out there in need of intelligent caring people to be their role models and protectors. A found family is no less a family than a blood one, and given the statistics can be a better option for the children.
I can understand why you are gun shy though, and there are plenty of options if you want children in your life that don't involve a genetic contribution from you. Which of course goes for anyone who wants to but finds they cannot father or bear children. There are plenty of kids out there in need of intelligent caring people to be their role models and protectors. A found family is no less a family than a blood one, and given the statistics can be a better option for the children.
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