CRUSHING ON MY FRIEND.... + HE'S GAY?

author=alterego

author=OP
-.- uhhh. I have to say that im honestly not sure how some ppl find this topic offensive or obnoxious?

What I find obnoxious is your constant use of-- What do you kids call it? Chatspeak? ...If you do it once or twice is not really an issue and it's even kind of cute (like with emoticons), but when you insist in replacing every "are", "you" or "be" (among other words) with their "too-lazy-to-type" counterparts, it starts to become difficult to read. So please. Stahp! :|

author=OP
Anyway, like i said, i think i will just take it slow/ hint at it...

Welp! Congrats on doing the opposite of what most people told ya to do, and effectively wasting their time replying to this thread. =B

Seriously, this is not about being 'direct' or 'passive'. It's just about honesty, both to yourself and this person you like. Therefore, just telling the guy that you like him is the only logical path you can take. Tip-toeing around the issue to protect either your or his feelings is utter nonsense. And I blame that on the current 'political-correctness' fad that people get too much into these days...

I forgot to mention that this topic actually does sound rather offensive...

"OMG! You made me feel like I'm not a special snowflake anymore! I demand an apology and I want it to sound sincere!"

Im very sincerely sorry. i hope u feel like ur a special snowflake. If u feel that represents myself, i would love to know why u think that.

Also, thank u for the congratulations and advice. If u feel like ur opinion has not been heard, however, perhaps we can chat more intimately and i will b able to listen to u 1-on-1. I can give u my e-mail if u want.

It seems u feel strongly about this topic/ me, however. I would like to know why.
So i will request that if you do not PM me an explanation in the next 48 hours for why you wrote the off-topic things you did in that comment, i will.

You don't have very good manners, I'm sorry to say. xD
But whatever, maybe it's just bad luck. I too commit lots of mistakes, so~~

Personally, i disagree that i do not have good manners. I believe that i have not said anything derogatory or personal or targetted at anyone, and if i did, i apologize.

Perhaps this view is partly because I refuse to be more submissive than others perhaps desire, and i do not know if thats something people do not welcome.

I will not point fingers and i will not mention other members to which this seems to have occured to, but i do not tolerate people bullying or harassing others. if i feel something is unjust, i will seek clarification or a way to end it.
Anyway, thanks again for ur input. I rly did appreciate being able to hear ur story. I hope u do not feel like i am enraged/ mad at u. dX

@Slash/ Kersh: Wow, thanks so much for the feedback/ stories u both had to offer. They both also give me hope... (Srs, haha)

U are both right. I am really nervous. :(

I became motivated enough to make plans w/ him on thursday though, from this topic. We also chatted the night of Joseph's last last reply.
Everytime i think of him, i feel like im getting heartburn, haha.. Im starting to think i might tell him on my birthday. But i really do realize that we can have that relationship/ couple thing w/o formally announcing it. As long as we enjoy each others company, which is really what a real relationship is anyway.

I watched a kids show haha, and one of them said, "isnt it your birthday even if you dont get cake or presents?". Similarly, there're people who live together and act like a married couple, but they do not need a formal arrangement to prove that they care about each other.
Thanks so much. I really liked hearing from u. Or hearing from u more i guess, haha. XD :-)

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If anyone has anything they want to add that does not really relate to the topic/ is not appropriate, you can send me a PM.
If you want to post it here anyway, i will ask for a PM for clarification.
If you do not give me an explanation/ answer within 48 hours, i will manually PM you myself.


Anyhow, i feel like this topic is pretty much resolved, although if anyone else has any stories/ suggestions they want to add, they r still welcome. Thanks! :-) X-) i rly like how we can b open w/ each other, and i am very grateful people have been willing to share their experiences/ suggestions w/ me and others..
My family is very conservative so i do not rly have any dating experience or references at all. :( so thanks again! Mm goy.