HOW TO APPROACH A GIRL......THE CORRECT WAY. (SERIOUS TOPIC)

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How does one go about approaching a fifteen-year-old boy without coming off as a pedophile?

unless you're 18, you're not a pedophile. and i know you're not 18.
do they have musical theatre where you go to school? if they have musical theatre, begin your search there.

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post=106384
How does one go about approaching a fifteen-year-old boy without coming off as a pedophile?

unless you're 18, you're not a pedophile. and i know you're not 18.
do they have musical theatre where you go to school? if they have musical theatre, begin your search there.

I look like I'm 18... And yeah I'm participating in theater stuffs this year.

Natook: Woah now bub.

post=106389
Guns are more effective than candy.

Candy has more universal appeal though, you'd be surprised how many prospective friendships are hindered/ruined when I mention to a new acquaintance that I am interested in/own guns, or invite them to go shooting sometime.

Candy still enjoys an overwhelmingly positive image in popular culture, though.

post=106393
I am interested in/own guns, or invite them to go shooting sometime.

1) this will make me instantly your friend
2) candy is awful, i hate candy. health food ftw

post=106385
@Feld:Certainly can't say you're wrong on any points, but I have seen some tragic failures caused by people taking advice too literally/too far/ignoring the responses and signals given by the recipient of their advances. My stance on the whole thing is that knowing how to act upon this basic advice so that you still seem pretty much like your normal self is just as important as getting that basic advice to begin with. However, I'm also of the opinion that if you're perceptive enough to know the former, the latter is kinda pointless and can only distract you from "being yourself".

Cliches aside, "be yourself" is excellent advice not only because of the trite "they have to like you for you" spill we've all heard but just because people in general (not just the ladies) are more comfortable getting to know/like you if they don't think you're modifying your behavior/trying too hard/shitting your pants because you want something from them.

The fact that these discussions inevitably turn into gigantic expositions on everyone's differences of opinion kinda tells me that basic social constructs only go so far :p

But that's the thing, anyone is slated to fail if you take advice that's meant as a general guide to approach a demographic at large, without allowing for any flexibility in specific scenarios.

Also, "Being yourself" is definitely something that everyone should remember and adhere to, no matter what social situation they're working with. Being fake or phony backfires on everyone sooner or later. There's someone out there for everyone, so being true to your own personality, interests, and character assures you that at least any relationship you build will be based on a foundation of honesty.

However, there is a trick to the above. A lot of people stubbornly hang on to pisspoor or outright unattractive character 'traits' and say "I'M JUST BEING MYSELF WHY DON'T YOU ACCEPT ME FOR THE BUM/JERK/UNHYGIENIC/SHAKY WAIF I AM" to justify it. While no, you should never compromise your character for just getting a chick or whatever, in the same vein there's nothing wrong with improving yourself to have better success in social endeavors. Improving your hygiene, increasing your confidence, and working on your social skills isn't compromising your character or not being 'true to yourself'; it's standard and fundamental self improvement!

Also, like arcan said, sometimes it just isn't in the cards; sometimes an approach with a person will fail no matter what you do. Life goes on, don't let it get you down!

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I'm pretty interested to read and engage you on anything specific you have to say about this and I promise not to dismiss your opinions out of hand or generally be a douchebag to you about it, scout's honor.

You are awesome for this!

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But that's the thing, anyone is slated to fail if you take advice that's meant as a general guide to approach a demographic at large, without allowing for any flexibility in specific scenarios.
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A lot of people stubbornly hang on to pisspoor or outright unattractive character 'traits' and say "I'M JUST BEING MYSELF WHY DON'T YOU ACCEPT ME FOR THE BUM/JERK/UNHYGIENIC/SHAKY WAIF I AM" to justify it.

Totally legit, I completely agree. We all have ugly traits and the smart/considerate among us try to at least mitigate them in public out of respect for others (I kinda lump this in with "being yourself" assuming "yourself" = "not an asshole"), if someone has trouble doing getting over themselves enough to do that in a given social situation, getting a date is probably not where their life-improvement efforts are best directed to begin with :p

Also: placidly awaiting the sociology insight bomb and ensuing discussion if/when you decide to drop it on us

post=106394
that's...not what I meant at all

I was commenting on your irreverent gun joke with am equally ludicrous (but true) relation of personal experience

sorry for the confusion

tardis: you mean we can go shooting and I don't have to share my candy? I am so there man
Orig: if you did this and took video (preferably with a high speed camera), gun nerds would love you

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Uh, not to be disrespectful or anything but it seems you have been thinking about the "girl" subject a lot.

Are you having problems with them?

I mean, your taking this thing a lot deeper, so it means its been in your mind for a while.
You have obviously been trying to figure it out.

If I seem to be focusing on the "girl" subject a lot it's because you started a topic about it and I am "taking it deeper" in an attempt to contribute in a way that advances the discussion. An eerie coincidence to be sure!

Honestly you are really reaching here to come to that conclusion.

6. Don't walk up to a pretty girl and say "Whats your number?"

Works all right for me.

This topic without you Feld is like cereal without milk