I'M 20 AND I LOOK LIKE I AM 14.

Hey dude I think your problem is that you don't look gangsta enough, that is if you're looking for girls your age. If you want to dress like you do, try to hit on girl that are 26 or older, because frankly you dress like someone that is pretty boring (or serious depending on how you see it). I don't have a problem with how you dress though FYI.

Also your ears do look weird, and if that offends you then go Cry me a fucking river because I don't give a f...anyways girls don't care much about the ears man, but that is if they looking for a long term man (marriage material).

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Man I can't judge your looks because i'm a guy, but you look just like any other person.

this is bullshit. i am a guy and i am very aware of when guys look good and don't.

Canuck, if you're looking to get in better shape, don't skip breakfast. Regardless of how over or underweight you are, breakfast is an important meal and not eating it won't make you lose weight, it will just make you unhealthy. Also, it's especially important to eat breakfast and then some if you're going to the gym, especially earlier in the day. Make sure you tank up on food (and give it time to settle) before you go to the gym, or you'll get the shakes and probably wind up hurting yourself.

I find a good place to start if you aren't experienced with gym-going is the cardio room/machines. That's the room where you'll find treadmills, stairsteppers and the like. I find my usual routine involves a warmup on some of the gear there- usually an elliptical or a stairstepper. Go easy one one of those for about 7 minutes to get your heart rate up and wake up your muscles. If you're not going to do a bunch of lifting that day, I suggest you look into rowing machines. They're a great workout, and if you can work up to being able to go steadily (keeping in mind you don't have to kill yourself on the reps) for 10-20 minutes, it will do wonders for your endurance and muscle tone. I never saw good results at the gym until I started rowing.

Finding a workout that works for you can take a little while, but the most important thing is making sure you aren't wearing yourself out needlessly or trying to lift amounts that are beyond you. You can always work up to bigger weights. It's hard to work up to them if you pull something trying to be all macho.

My usual routine (keeping in mind, I am a very young guy, 157lbs and 5'8" or 9") starts with stretching for about 3 or 4 minutes, 5-7 minutes on an elliptical or stairstepper, followed by however long it takes me to row 1000 meters (this is a lot less than you'd think) then immediately into the weight room to stretch again and do pull ups (i'm in pretty good shape and i can't do a ton of these- that's not a problem), crunches (i use an incline bench for these, works much better than doing them on the floor), leg presses, some dumbell work (hammercurls, above-the-head tricep curls, etc) and a compound row. Inbetween all these sets, I space things out and give myself time to breathe with something like 30 seconds worth of calf raises.

As far as advice for anything you do lifting weights/anything that involves repetitions is don't count them. I've found counting just wears me out faster and distracts me. Just go with one exercise until your muscles get tired, but aren't to the point of hurting or straining to continue the exercise. Do as many as you can until you feel like you couldn't do one more without straining or working too hard, then take a 30-60 second break and go at it again. When doing this with variable amounts of weight, you can mix your workout up a little and go heavy-to-light in weight amounts or light-to-heavy. I generally go with heavy-to-light.

Most importantly, keep yourself motivated. Every time I've lost heart at the gym, I've gotten nothing accomplished. Whatever it takes, keep yourself motivated. Visualization, breathing, whatever it takes. Have fun, and stay safe when you work out.

Starting Strength is absolutely one of the best routines out there for beginner and advanced gym goers alike.

http://stronglifts.com/stronglifts-5x5-beginner-strength-training-program/

Don't be intimidated by the GRR MUSCLES/YOU HAVE TO DO SQUATS/BUY THIS SUPPLEMENT ADS on the site, Starting Strength is one of the most approachable, manageable, and effective routines there is, ever.

As far as advice for anything you do lifting weights/anything that involves repetitions is don't count them. I've found counting just wears me out faster and distracts me. Just go with one exercise until your muscles get tired, but aren't to the point of hurting or straining to continue the exercise.

NO NO NO I know you mean well, tardis, but this isn't good advice! Not keeping track of your reps leads into a big clusterfuck that I could go on and on about the horrors of training to failure, nervous system wear, maintaining hypertrophy, anaerobic training, and all that which would probably bore a lot of you to tears if I really got into it, but the main point is that you HAVE to be aware of how many reps you're doing and what you're doing to maintain steady progress, and not to completely fuck yourself over at worst.

I like a good clean and jerk, myself

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As far as advice for anything you do lifting weights/anything that involves repetitions is don't count them. I've found counting just wears me out faster and distracts me. Just go with one exercise until your muscles get tired, but aren't to the point of hurting or straining to continue the exercise.

NO NO NO I know you mean well, tardis, but this isn't good advice! Not keeping track of your reps leads into a big clusterfuck that I could go on and on about the horrors of training to failure, nervous system wear, maintaining hypertrophy, anaerobic training, and all that which would probably bore a lot of you to tears if I really got into it, but the main point is that you HAVE to be aware of how many reps you're doing and what you're doing to maintain steady progress, and not to completely fuck yourself over at worst.

We've been around this before. We both know what we're talking about, you just phrase it a lot better than I do.
I'm trying to say "don't sweat over not being able to do 20 reps of whatever because you're just not there yet." Don't mind me typing without thinking after a week+ of going to bed at 6am.
Believe me, I am well aware of the importance of knowing what the fuck is going on with your training.
Also keeping in mind I do not know how versed in working out anyone who asks is, so I try to give ridiculously broad advice, and this leads to word clusterfucks a lot of the time.

In the future, I am just going to shut up about this. :(

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We've been around this before. We both know what we're talking about, you just phrase it a lot better than I do.
I'm trying to say "don't sweat over not being able to do 20 reps of whatever because you're just not there yet." Don't mind me typing without thinking after a week+ of going to bed at 6am.
Believe me, I am well aware of the importance of knowing what the fuck is going on with your training.
Also keeping in mind I do not know how versed in working out anyone who asks is, so I try to give ridiculously broad advice, and this leads to word clusterfucks a lot of the time.

In the future, I am just going to shut up about this. :(

:( I don't want to give the impression of 'you don't know wtf you're talking about tardis so stfu". My bad :(. I just want to illustrate the importance of how many reps and sets you're doing for a workout, because for example, routines like Starting Strength base their entire concept around how many reps and how many sets you do. You always want to write down and count; how many reps and sets you're capable of in a given workout at a given weight. Ideally, you want to make around a 5 pound progress every time you do the same workout (at the same rep and set number).

Also, I know you were just using hyperbole about this but let me clear this up for anyone who might not have seen it; Do not do 20 reps on anything. High frequency/low intensity workouts are pretty useless and in many cases counterproductive. It's far more beneficial to crank out 5 really heavy reps than 20 light ones.

I have no respect for ghetto people, and rape. I have no respect for that type of cultural.

I like how you implicitly associate street culture with rapists. it's charming!!!

it might not be your appearance, dogg. how you present yourself is also important. if you seem desperate, creepy, whatever, it's gonna bottom out your appeal, y'know?

kiss her vagina