ARE YOU HAPPY WITH HOW YOUR LIFE HAS TURNED OUT?

Wow Suzu if not for wife having similar problem to yours I wouldn´t understand the extent of what you mean, I am just now understanding her a bit more since I was raised to make all decisions on a rational basis and only deal with reason, this created many conflicts since wife explodes heavily, but as I understand things get better and she makes an effort to deal with this.
Also think your kids will help you a lot as you said yourself and don´t concern so much with not giving enough attention - I believe all moms feel that way no matter how much attention they give to their kids.
And I bet Asa is a great husband and daddy and seems far stronger than me in that regard (though I am doing my level up or trying to).
So yeah think that the good things you have, by what you said, make yp for the things that bother you somehow :)