CRUSHING ON MY FRIEND.... + HE'S GAY?

Get used to the idea that he'll never desire you, demands openmindedness and forget about your crush or you're in for disaster, that is if you're sure he's gay.

Get used to the idea that he'll never desire you, demands openmindedness and forget about your crush or you're in for disaster, that is if you're sure he's gay.

This. Bad advice.

If a guy really wants you, his sexuality doesn't matter. Of course, if he doesn't nothing on this earth will make him interested.

Both the left and the right are wrong about homosexuality. It's not "gays can change" and it's not "gays can't change."

Sexuality is a mental construct in the first place. I have a tendency to favor women, and thus call myself heterosexual. I also get squicked out by the actual concept of anal sex. I am a crossdresser, and get aroused by other crossdressers, and if a normal guy were hot enough, I'd actually pursue him. I generally am not interested in sex though but friendships, and am unlikely to date anyone.

Am I "heterosexual", "homosexual", or "asexual"? Because I could make a case for all three. Which is why I say not only the whole set-in-stone thing, but the concept is bogus. Just ask Anne Heche.

If the guy likes you, you may have a chance. Love is love. If he doesn't, love is also love. It follows its own rules, independent of our concepts of sexuality. Some people get rejected, some get accepted, some take awhile to warm up to people, since they're different from the others. Take charge and be aggressive.

Omg, so you don't know whether he is gay. Your assumption could prevent that relationship ever happening. If a woman ever called or thought of me as gay in anyway just because I like to write, I'm artistic and different to most guys then I would want nothing to do with her relationship wise. Heck I would want nothing to do with people who understand nothing but stereotypes. If they have no value for art or anything like that then I don't want nothing to do with em. That would like just kill it for me. I'm not saying that's why you think he's gay but you said you are not sure so you're probably either stereotyping, you have never asked the poor sod or lastly you are listening to way too many rumors or whatever. The first thing you should do is just find out, you can test this fact easily and don't be stupid about it either because I guarantee if he's anything like myself and he knows what you're doing he will probably find it offensive, lose all interest in you forever. So I suggest testing this out yourself, not through rumors or with the help of friends either.
However, just for your own good, I hope he ain't nothing like me.

Well if he a gayboy then he a gayboy. Done and sorted. You talk like he aint gay or you are not sure now you state he is clearly gay and he makes that statement to refer to himself. Nice one.

Now who's the biased stereotype-lover here, Obsorber? Your words sound like an antithesis. Q_Q

author=Magical_RuNE_Knight200
It seems i should... Just listen to my heart? But we r friends, so im worried that if i suggest going out, he might decline and it will b weird. :(
Or he might say "i thought u knew i was gay".

Love is about taking chances. How will you know if you don't at least give it a try?

Besides, if he really says something like that, then you'll best be just friends with him.

I don't think being declined that way is all that weird, really. Maybe a little, but not too much.

If you truly want to confess, you would go for it. Rejections can be scary sometimes, but at least you confessed. Just be prepared for the rejection if it happens.

For a first, you can start by giving him hints that you want to go out with him and see if he gets it.

Well, generalizing is bad. Just because it hasn't happened to you doesn't mean that it can't happen to anyone, does it? Especially when this anyone is still trying.

If you feel strongly about him, ask him out. If he's gay he'll either tell you straight out or reject you (probably very politely).

If you ask him out, you could be rejected but you could find out something great.
If you don't confess, you have to live not knowing, which is certainly worse.

LOL MRCHEARLIE'S AWEVATAR

Anyways I guess they're right. >_>
...(though other people's experiences are quite helpful at times.)