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suzy_cheesedreams
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This isn't a situation where the OP, if they were disingenuous, could really take anything away from the other commenters. Most people briefly offered support and sympathy, and that's it.
Acting like everything is fine could be for a number of things like embarrassment or wanting to move on from a painful state of thinking, stuff like that.
Cynicism isn't helpful when someone is expressing potentially genuine emotional/psychological pain. It doesn't hurt anyone to offer small words of sympathy to someone over the internet. But it is hurtful to perpetuate stigma around externalizing mental/emotional pain in public.
Lastly the cry for attention thing is not real (in the sense of it being used to dismiss people who are supposedly just being "dramatic" or insincere). Whatever reason behind expressing the feeling of wanting to die would need to be addressed, and all claims should be treated as though they're genuine (because someone's life is literally in danger). It sounds like KrimsonKatt was genuinely distressed over their diagnosis, and the fact that the strong emotions were temporary doesn't diminish their severity.
Acting like everything is fine could be for a number of things like embarrassment or wanting to move on from a painful state of thinking, stuff like that.
Cynicism isn't helpful when someone is expressing potentially genuine emotional/psychological pain. It doesn't hurt anyone to offer small words of sympathy to someone over the internet. But it is hurtful to perpetuate stigma around externalizing mental/emotional pain in public.
Lastly the cry for attention thing is not real (in the sense of it being used to dismiss people who are supposedly just being "dramatic" or insincere). Whatever reason behind expressing the feeling of wanting to die would need to be addressed, and all claims should be treated as though they're genuine (because someone's life is literally in danger). It sounds like KrimsonKatt was genuinely distressed over their diagnosis, and the fact that the strong emotions were temporary doesn't diminish their severity.
suzy_cheesedreams
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Well, distortions to me are things like what you're describing - favouring apathy and suspicion over compassion when responding to someone who's explicitly asking for help, because of some nebulous threat of exploitation.
Of course scepticism is useful, but contextually so. In this sort of situation I don't think it's worth it.
Of course scepticism is useful, but contextually so. In this sort of situation I don't think it's worth it.
Sooz
They told me I was mad when I said I was going to create a spidertable. Who’s laughing now!!!
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OK, so let's say you're correct and this WAS a situation where someone was using suicide disingenuously.
So what? Where's the harm?
Someone claimed to be upset and posted what looked like credible feelings. Others posted responses trying to help that person.
How have these people been harmed if the OP wasn't sincere? What have they lost beyond a few minutes of their time? I honestly can't see a problem here.
Like, if there's a chance that I can help someone who's suffering with just five minutes of typing, I'm gonna take it. If it helps, great. If it doesn't, well, that's five minutes I was probably going to spend reading dumb shit on the internet, so it's not like I'm losing productivity.
I could see an argument if this were part of an overall pattern of deceptive behavior or something, but a one-off panic post? Nah, man, they can have all my sympathy. I have infinite amounts of that.
So what? Where's the harm?
Someone claimed to be upset and posted what looked like credible feelings. Others posted responses trying to help that person.
How have these people been harmed if the OP wasn't sincere? What have they lost beyond a few minutes of their time? I honestly can't see a problem here.
Like, if there's a chance that I can help someone who's suffering with just five minutes of typing, I'm gonna take it. If it helps, great. If it doesn't, well, that's five minutes I was probably going to spend reading dumb shit on the internet, so it's not like I'm losing productivity.
I could see an argument if this were part of an overall pattern of deceptive behavior or something, but a one-off panic post? Nah, man, they can have all my sympathy. I have infinite amounts of that.
totally agree. thanks for you kind words. Yes, I may have over reacted but I was 100% genuine at the time. Also you are allowed to use this tread in whatever meme your making.
author=Dyhalto
You know, there are literally billions of people who are perfectly healthy, of sound mind, and have "good genes" that tend to avoid the really nasty illnesses. But for some reason, the vast majority of them spend their lives doing mediocre things, accomplishing nothing of note, and dying in obscurity.
Meanwhile, Franklin Delano Roosevelt, the greatest man of the 20th century, was paralyzed from the waist down.
Sometimes it takes a critical health issue to prompt people into asking themselves "What am I doing with this life of mine?" Right now it feels like you're losing something forever, but you could also totally rebound and do something fantastic on a world historical scale while everyone else is idling away, taking their lucky stars for granted.
As comforting as this sounds, there are also millions of people with psoriasis, this disorder, necrotizing fasciitis, etc. who do nothing of note either. Handicaps don't make one Superman. And there are plenty of normal people who go on to do great things. The Buddha, Gandhi, and Jesus had no known deformities that I am aware of. It's not what happens to you, it's how you deal with it.
Here's the thing, I DON'T believe if you legit want to die, it's any of our place to be like "think of what you have to live for!" I do not want to give up on my life just yet, but I have certainly felt this way before, and I believe it is deeply wrong to tell people how to live. The other thing, if I was trapped in a body, I'd probably be pretty depressed too. Stroke or paralysis or on life support, nope, I wanna check out the afterlife at that point. If there is something I can do something about, I wanna keep fighting.
author=Gourd_Clae
@bulma thank you for your enlightening words i hate them
You're welcome.
If I had a strong facial deformity, and I were honest, I'd be miserable too. I have enough social issues that a physical issue as well would basically isolate me. Yeah, some people are brave in the face of everything. But you don't have to be, not if you don't want to. We love you, even if you kinda hate yourself.
It's one thing to be all like "you're beautiful (even if you aren't)" but if we're honest, it boils down to what you feel, not what we feel is best for you. Because ultimately, it's about being happy with the skin you're in. Perhaps you can manage a treatment, perhaps you can learn to live with it, perhaps not. It's up to you, if you wanna do the hot-cha-cha.
