DO YOU HAVE REAL FRIENDS?

author=chana

author=Deckiller
At least computers are predictable!

That's saying a lot!

Alright. Computer AIs are usually predictable :D

These days I'm not limited by friends willing to do stuff, but time. Seems every weekend is something with someone or other. My fiancee and I have quite a few close friends, many of whom are couples. I haven't had a weekend of just nothingness in months.

As I moved around a lot when I was younger thanks to my dad's job I never really kept up strong friendships. That said, I do have many acquaintances, just no real "best friends" to speak of. So yeah, pretty much like kentona but without the athleticism, and I was pretty clever at school but by no means the smartest so I wasn't really a benchmark or anything. I was just...there.

Sometimes I wish I could have just stayed in one place during my school years (and also not attended single-sex schools for most of them) but I guess I shouldn't dwell on my past too much. There's still the rest of my life to look forward to! The future's bright. The future's Orange.

I'm your friend, kentona. :)

author=supremewarrior
I feel the same actually, I can't really find anyone who I can relate to.

I'm interested in your stories!

to make a long story short, my self-esteem is closely tied with my performance in any given area in my life. This makes me fear failure so much that rarely take risks or attempt new things (even innocuous things like RMVX). I also avoid confrontation to a fault.

This is not a good thing.

(...the problem is even now I can still excel if I apply myself. I just rarely ever want to apply myself anymore. It is exhausting and mentally draining for me.)


For some crib notes:
-I had the highest average in my school from grade 7 thru 12 (the average grade size was about 100-150 students)
-I was MVP of the senior boys volleyball team for grades 11 and 12, and the only rookie in the starting 6 for grade 10, even though I am only 5'10" (on a good day)
-I was often the leading scorer on my hockey teams (or near the top)
-I went to provincials for track & field every year
-I swept the city track meet in grade 7 actually, getting 1st in all 5 events I participated in
-I played goalie in soccer in the one year I competed in it (except for the final game of the year, where I played midfielder. I scored 3 goals.)
-I still remember my PBs from track & field (12.57m in shotput, 6.20m in long jump, 11.53s in 100m, 7.87 in 60m, 24.23s in 200m, 54.5s in 400m)
-in my aptitude test in school I was ranked in the 99th percentile for nearly all categories
-I loafed through university with a 90% average, graduating with Great Distinction
-I made the most downloaded game on RMN.

..and yet I still suck as a human being and often go through bouts of depression.

ok, the psy question : how did your parents take it all? If I say that, it's because all this should have made you a very comfortable person with yourself, when apparently it seems to be the opposite?! (I suppose you've been through that bit!)

author=Tabris_Macbeth
The very existence of this thread makes me very ;_;.

RPG Maker

it's a sad life

Shortly before my teens I felt betrayed by some of my closest friends. In retrospect it probably wasn't a big deal but because of it I slowly sort of closed in on myself and distanced myself from people.

In a way you could probably say I became sort of an emo loner in my early teens. Combine that with my innate shyness (if you meet me in real life, never expect me to start a conversation :D) so I only really have had acquintances after my teen years. Most are good acquintances that I really like but I don't have one of them famous "really close friends".

Not only is it hard to make "real friends", but sometimes I think it's also hard to recognize who's really your friend among the group of people you usually hang out with !
There's a lot of buddies I enjoying killing time with, but there's only a couple of guys I could stay for hours, discussing serious stuff. And yet, we're not the kind of guys who talk about personal matters (even with my family), or who display emotions. To me, you know a friend is a 'real friend' when you don't feel forced to look happy to his eyes when he shows up, and when you know he'll accept the mood you're in, because he understands you without words.

just my 2 cents..

I have a few groups of friends. A couple from highschool, some from night classes, some from online who became offline friends, and a big group of pals in my hometown. However, I moved away to Toronto, so rarely see them anymore. Then there's always the few work friends I hang out with aftershift / weekends.

Though it is true that age and situation throw this off. I used to be really popular. Now I'm always too busy working to do anything.