ALICHAINS'S PROFILE

To anyone feeling uncomfortable about this topic. Thats....ok. It's alright, Social discussions aren't easy. They're complex, they're solutions are often not obvious, and they often require us to take a step and realize that we aren't always the great people we like to think we are. So if you feel that pain of fear in your chest, it's ok, it's expected. Take a step back, breathe deeply and ask yourself "What am I trying to say with my post". I've found that my dumbest posts have been the result of me posting out of anger or a desire to save face. It will never do anyone any good.

For the sake of keeping the discussion on track, let me introduce the term "DARVO" or
"Deny, attack, reverse, victim and offender". It essentially refers to a bullying tactic where the attacker tries to make the person defending themselves into the attacker. An example of this would be saying someone is censoring you when they ask you to use respectful language. It's something to keep in mind when posting. If your post looks something like that, take a step and reconsider what you're saying. If someone else's post uses those tactics, they don't need to be listened to nor engaged. Just a couple things to keep in mind.

I remember taking a philosophy class a few years back and that's more or less what the (White Southerner) professor said. In the South you'll know a racist as soon as you see the Confederate Flag. In the North you can never tell who has a white cloak in their closet. This was confirmed by one of my classmates who was a black woman from the South. (For the record, I'm from Massachusetts and I've seen plenty of casual racism there.)

I agree with Mawk though, basic decency shouldn't be demonized as "Political Correctness".

@Sated

Max has a history of showing up, derailing and shutting down discussions like these. From what I can tell, it gives him some false sense of superiority. There's no point in trying engage with him. You'd be better off arguing with a brick wall.

author=WetMattos
Take my advice. Grab your things, and retire yourself from this thread. It'll do both of us good.

I'd listen to that Max.

Micro-voltage? Ma Viande?

I think it's when "you" realize that it's not about "you" and there is no need to make it about "you". Sometimes the only thing "you" need to have is an ear.