CHARLESGABRIEL'S PROFILE

author=ChaosProductions link=topic=3438.msg68853#msg68853 date=1238539743
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Seconded. Your files will never get deleted. But you must log in at least once in 2 months or your account could be erased.

Dear Obsorber:

I think you are over-reacting, take a deep breath, count to 10 and rellax dude. :-* yes I know you're 18, still, chill for 10 seconds.

Read carefully from now on... cause when it comes to heated topics like this, people tend to read too fast cause they are driven by intense hard feelings inside, so take your time, this is short, just make sure you understand it the way I mean it okay.

First off all, I could either take this personally, since generalizing as well includes me whether I'm active here or not, but instead, I'm just going to skip the fight and get onto what's more important here. Don't generalize. Don't freaking stereotype ever in your life, when you do you only are inviting people to prove you wrong in a way you nor anyone in this world will ever like. With that said, let's just go on...

So, Okay. Most people know it was a misunderstanding, and we also know that some people in RMN made fun of the situation, tough shit who cares, it's just talk, nothing else. It shouldn't bother you enough or hurt your inner child so hard that you have to return to just explode.

Second of all, I can't believe you stopped working on your game cause of this incident... you are soo weak minded dude, if a crowd doesn't like your game, you just dump it cause the "public" doesn't like it... dude just make your shit the way you want it regardless of the outcome or regardless of how the crowd takes it. It is not too late to pause that new game, and continue making this one you just dumped, unless you deleted it off the face of the earth haha.

Don't be overwhelmed cause of this incident, nor any other incident that can pop up in the future, whether is here or anywhere else... on about RMN being assholish, just like you said, you are basically new here... get me? you can't prove everyone in here is an asshole, nor you will ever prove it with generalizations... unless you're talking about rpgland. So yeah, everyone is different.

This is over, no one meant to attack you I'm sure, even though they probably sounded like they did. I commented on that thread actually, mainly cause of where the thread was heading to. If anything, I remember saying my views, not attacks or whatever.

Well, to end the story in case you didn't understand, just disregard what happened, no one cursed at you, nothing was much out of place other than people sorta acting immaturely which we are not GOD so not all the time we act perfect... if anything like I said, it could be a lot worse... like in rpgland.

Thanks for listening
-Antifarea

author=Silently link=topic=3430.msg68654#msg68654 date=1238429783
Eh, how lame... I guess I'll have to fall asleep during battles (I actually do when I'm somewhat tired) if I keep playing.

To be honest, I think you're just not used to rm2k3 DBS at all, I can note because of how you describe the speed like. It's not going to be as fast as other commercial games out there, but it just take some time to get used to it as you play. I have played some games that are slow, while others are faster than usual. But since there isn't much you can do about it unless you hack the program itself to make it run faster, then it's just a matter of adaptation. :)

I'm finally playing Star Ocean for the snes... it's a great game, but not as good as part 2 and the rest of them... what can I expect from the first part haha.

Well, this is something I have noticed a lot, specially since all we do is create for the most part. I've seen some people in overall giving comments in a game just saying stupid shit like ZOMG you typed this wrong, while there are 100 other things both good and bad that could be pointed out as well, at least as courtesy, or if you really wanna be listened to in the first place.

Criticism should be more serious, a lot of people want proper feedback... not just quick looks at how things look in the screen, and for christ sake, give someone a break if they make a mistake, don't just stereotype the overall knowledge and talent of the person just because you found something as insignificant as a engrish mistake. *sigh*

I'm just generalizing towards these crowds that are in every RM community... jeez, to make it simpler for these people, here's a guide on how to critique in the first place (in case you didn't know, and probably don't) :) Have fun. Critique in the end :)

As responsible employers, parents, and friends, we have an obligation to correct the mistakes of other people in order to enhance their personal success. The task before us is how to correct a deficiency without damaging the delicate ego that can sometimes get in the way. Too often people criticize someone's behavior without providing a solution and this is detrimental because it then becomes a personal attack on the person that only aims to demerit them. Constructive criticism involves pointing out their weakness and offering a solution to correct it. In order to give constructive criticism, we must seek the solution to the problem before we point it out to the person. By doing this, we effectively separate the behavior from the ego and preserve the relationship in the process.

Here Are Some Strategies For Giving Constructive Criticism:

1. Never criticize while you are angry with the person. If your emotions are controlling your actions, then avoid any type of criticism. It becomes too easy to use that criticism as a chance to make a personal attack on the other person when emotions are high. Distance yourself and regain your own composure before you address a behavior that needs correcting.

2. Offer a better solution. Know the difference between disliking a certain behavior because it disagrees with your own personal preference versus disliking a behavior in favor of a more efficient way or correct way of doing something. Avoid making a criticism and then attempting to support it with emotional appeals because the issue then becomes a matter of personal preference and conflicting egos. Instead, use the power of logic to show the person that there really is a better way of doing the same thing that will enhance their own success and productivity.

3. Always let the person save face. This means respect the person, even if they did something completely inappropriate. The psychological consequences of embarrassing or disrespecting someone in front of their peers is very severe. It is so severe in fact, that such embarrassment has been a major factor in 80% of all violent incidents in the workplace and at schools. Criticism is a personal and private process that is not to be shared with anyone else. Also, it is just as important not to make it apparent to other people that you are giving, or going to give criticism. Asking someone to come into your office in front their peers can be just as damaging as criticizing them in public. Keep it very confidential and respect your counterpart's needs to save face in front of their peers.

4. Focus on the problem, not the person. When giving constructive criticism, make sure that you stay focused on addressing the problem and not the person. The problem is an objective issue that you can work cooperatively on to enhance both of your interests. Focusing in on the person, however, will always be construed as a personal attack against themâ€"even if it is not meant to be. Personal attacks are always followed up with resentment and anger, which can actually be more detrimental in the long run because it can cause deep-seated resentment, which in turn, can lead to poor moral, clandestine or saboteur behavior, and passive-resistance. Remember that the person has feelings and those feelings can be easily broken by a wrong approach. Whenever you give criticism, follow the golden rule of attacking the problem, while being gentle on the person.

5. Empathize with their position. Empathy is the ability to step into the shoes of the other person and see the world from their perspective. Sometimes we forget what it is like to be the new person on the job because we have grown accustom to a certain procedure or routine that is second nature to us. Remember that people don't always see things as you do and part of being a good educator is being able to understand the other person's position and work with them at their levelâ€"not your own.

6. Never label the person. Attaching a negative label on the person being criticized is an inappropriate approach because it dehumanizes them, making it easier for you to be angry with them and it demoralizes them.

7. Focus on the future, not the past. Blaming someone for their past behavior does nothing but create conflict. The past is over with and your main concern is that it does not happen in the future. So instead of dwelling on past behavior, use it as a teaching tool so that they can improve in the future.

8. Use softening words to pad your criticism. Softening words are designed to “soften” harsh-sounding statements.. Softeners work because they leave a lot of room for interpretation of the statement that follows it. Some examples of softeners are, “I think,” “I suppose,” “it seems,” “I believe,” etc. So instead of making a harsh statement such as, “You're report is terrible.” Replace it with a softened criticism such as, “It seems to me that this part of your report could use some revision.” The psychological effect of rewording a statement can lead to a greater amount of persuasion and conflict avoidance.

9. Give them an opportunity to correct their behavior. This is an important step for any criticism because it works at two different levels. On the first level, giving them the opportunity to correct their behavior or actions lets them take responsibility for their behavior and reinforces the point that they must be held accountable for their actions. On the second level, giving them the opportunity to correct their behavior will give them an opportunity to redeem themselves and save face with you, which will make it easier for them to put their past behavior behind them and move one.

10. Constructive criticism is a sign of compassion. Criticism is often associated as a negative thing because it is often abused as a transport device for personal attacks. However, constructive criticism is a positive gift because the core message behind that criticism is that you care about the person enough to want them to succeed in the future. Constructive criticism is one of the main tests that separate regular people from true caring friends. Caring people will be honest with you and even risk generating conflict if they believe that their constructive criticism will help improve your life. Make sure that the person knows that your constructive criticism is done because you care about them and that you value your relationship with them. They will respect you more for being honest with them.

The original document: http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Give-Criticism-Without-Bruising-Egos&id=59310

Thanks for reading, now you know that when someone spelt something wrong in their game, or how something else is wrong in whatever case, you can offer your thoughts on what could be the solution.