VACCARIA'S PROFILE

author=Liberty
I, uh, wasn't saying you were, but was more responding to Dyhalto's post and the whole inference that hanging around her will maybe make her like you sort of thing. Don't do that - don't hang around like a dog in heat who is just waiting for her boy to fuck up so you can 'swoop in and sweep her away'. That's basically the same as just being a friend for the sake of getting her to be yours, and besides, it might cause issues between she and her boyfriend, and end up making her resent you for doing so.

If you want to be her friend then let go of the feeling of 'maybe this will lead to more' because it's not a guarantee and it'll fuck things up more than it will help. If you're going to hang around her, make sure you're not doing the 'I'm just a friend' thing to her, is what I'm basically saying. Those horrible romance movies have it all wrong (and have taught a ton of people how not to get the girl).

Basically, if you want to be her friend, just be her friend, but if you want more, make sure that she knows you're not aiming to 'just be a friend' so that she can choose how she reacts to you in that respect. If she then chooses to maybe take up with you after she and her boy break up, she knows that option is there. If she thinks of you as just a friend you're only going to get treated as such and pushing to go beyond friendship will just mess up what you had as 'just friends'. (And make her not trust people - men in particular - as much. As a woman, you get to a point where you're just like "Great, sure, let's see what you want from me Mr 'Just wanna be friends'. Lemme guess. Sex. *tch* Figures." every time a male wants to 'be friends'. Which is what makes 'assholes' a breath of fresh air - they're not trying to be friends just to get in your pants... they just want the pants from the start.)

I should write a book about this bullshit.