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author=Liberty
What I said in that moment was very deliberately said if you look at the words.

True. I missed that important detail.

author=Liberty
I'd been more than flexible on every other manner of thing but this thing was a hard no. And I'm allowed to do that when people keep pushing the issue. I'm not going to let myself be bullied into things when I know that it's going to probably fall on my back to do (because people flake out a lot and I don't like disappointing the community as a whole and have to do it myself - see the Music Pack 2 event for example).

That is reasonable and I now understand it. I had no idea about what happened with the Music Pack 2 event, just looked into it and I see what you mean :/

author=Liberty
I think, perhaps, maybe you're seeing this through your bias of "A woman should be like this" again (you've brought stuff like my swearing up a few times in the past as being unladylike and too 'mean' (see Hawkmen game for example)), if only a little.

I am the kind of person who will tell you if I think you're being unnecessarily harsh (and did so on the post above), but I am 90% certain I would never tell anyone that they were "unladylike" or something similar! As far as I can remember, I've always treated everyone first and foremost as a: person.

Considering that you always get my username wrong, couldn't you be confusing me with someone else (Linkis perhaps?).

I had to search for Hawkmen to find out what that was all about and found this.
I don't think I've commented on anything related to that game, I believe it's the first time I'm hearing about it.

author=Liberty
I've been abused, pushed around, had to deal with people using me and fucking me over again and again whilst being Admin on this site (not to mention stalking, harassment and depression). I have had to learn to set hard boundaries at times and this was one of those times.

Well if I had known about all that, I would have kept my mouth shut! From that point of view I can understand where you are coming from. I apologize from making my initial comment.

As for everything else, I think you're being reasonable. I don't mean for people to ignore "the fact I do this with no compensation", I'm just pointing out that it shouldn't be used as a shield for criticism (which in this case was unwarranted).

I not saying this to excuse myself, but I'm ON and OFF on the site for long periods of time and miss a lot of what goes on, this time I commented uninformed.

I appreciate the work you do Liberty, it's hard and I don't envy it.
If you recall, I even said I thought you'd do a good job as Admin, a couple of years ago (in a PM exchange where you were informing me about someone stealing maps from my game). I stand by that.

Posting this here so I don't derail the other thread, more than it has.

For context this is what I said:

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author=Liberty
I'm putting my foot down on this. When I'm no longer here, feel free to change it up, but no on this.

Do whatever you want.
I understand why you want to keep the Misao dates, but I don't like your attitude here, pulling the admin card.

Doesn't seem like a good way to foster a healthy community.

Why ask people what they think in the first place, if you're not gonna take into account what they have to say?"

I feel the need to justify this, since it was misinterpreted.

An admin has the final say. They can listen to the community, but in the end they are the ones deciding. I got no issue with that.

I can even understand maintaining the Misao's how they are now, since it's a longstanding RPG Maker tradition and it's easier for people to remember the dates.

What bugged me wasn't that Liberty said no, what I didn't like was the attitude, the way it was said. Because it made it sound like there was no use in even suggesting anything. It's no because I said so! This is what I call "playing the Admin card", the way it's said, not the decision itself.

The way you talk with people goes a long way. If you're less harsh when saying no, people will accept it better. This was just rubbing in everyone's face that you're the "boss" and no one likes it when people do that to them.

In a suggestion thread, telling people that you're putting your foot down and no means no, just makes people question why even bother with the community since in the end they don't matter. Antagonizing people like that will drive them away from the site. That's why I said it doesn't seem like a good way to foster a healthy community.

Several people mentioned that Liberty is an admin with no pay, but that is no justification for anything. Please understand that I'm not saying I don't appreciate Liberty's efforts in keeping RMN afloat for free, but in the end it was Liberty's decision to accept that task, so I cannot accept "no pay" as a shield for behavior.

I'm not demanding anything, I accepted Liberty's decision from the start. Neither do I want control over the site like Sooz suggested.

Having said all this, I don't mean to devalue Liberty's work. My comment had nothing to do with Liberty's general efforts on RMN, it was only aimed at that specific post and was blown out of proportion.

Not a prob!

Yeah, it's sucks that the default random encounter system is buggy and will sometimes force you into battling twice in a row.

I made a custom-ish system (for an rm2k game of mine) where I set the random encounters to 0 after a battle and then wait some seconds before setting it to the regular encounter rate to alleviate that issue.

Good luck!